Hey strong, capable, beautiful, smart, and kind humans.
If you know anything about me, at all, you know that I live and breathe lingerie. I guess one might suppose that about the founder of a lingerie company, ha. But honestly, it wasn’t always this way. I used to be ashamed of my body, a lot, and I had a lot of really screwed-up misconceptions about lingerie (coming from my upbringing, society, cultural standards, friends, university, guys, media, dating culture, etc.).
Sometimes, if I’d wear something a little too short, too tight, or “not deemed appropriate by whoever felt the need to judge me” - then I would get a comment such as, “are you really going to wear that?” Or I’d simply get a disapproving look that said it all. And it wasn’t just family, sometimes friends felt the need to throw in their two-cents too. “Do you want him to think you’re a slut?” Or “you don’t want him to think you’re asking for it!” Slowly but surely, my creativity and personal preference for clothing started to fade, and I let society start to dress me.
After I was raped, it got even worse. When I would bring up the topic, even the most well-intentioned friends or family members would ask, “what were you wearing that night?” I would answer their question, but be a bit offended that they would even ask (as if it mattered).
Now, I wear lingerie whenever I damn feel like it. I don’t abide by cultural rules of fashion. This is a strange thing for the owner of a lingerie company to say, but I’ll say it anyways because it feels liberating as heck and I feel like a lot of women/femmes might be able to relate: Sometimes, I just really hate bras!!!
Sometimes, I just really hate bras!!!
Sometimes, I don’t even feel like wearing Willow Layne bralettes! Sometimes I just wear absolutely nothing under a shirt and I like it because I feel free. Sometimes I wear a cute bralette with an open back shirt because it looks adorable. Sometimes I just wear ‘lil sticky boob things under a dress because the tiny bit of coverage for a fancy event makes me feel a bit more comfortable. Sometimes I wear a bralette with underwear instead of a swimsuit because I can and I like it. Sometimes I wear a bralette with shorts and that’s it.. because why not, it kinda looks like a crop top and I think it’s adorable. Or my personal favorite, wearing a bralette under overalls!
Absolutely none of these above “outfit” choices are reasons for anyone to dare lay a finger on me or to make harassing, degrading comments (I have been harassed equally as much while wearing puffy winter coats). I will not live in fear of that, though, and let the cultural fashion “norms” dictate what I have every freedom to do.
So, wear what you want. Wear lingerie as swimwear, wear bralettes as crop-tops, or go braless if you dig it. But above all, don’t let society dress you.